QUOTE(Telarin @ Jun 15 2009, 11:43 AM)

Another thing you might check on, make sure the company that is sending your emails for you puts in some sort of subscription verbage to the effect:
"This message was sent to youraddress[at]domain.com because you signed up for a newsletter on mysite.com"
Any reputable mailing list software should be able to insert the necessary information from your database.
Are you cleaning out dead address from your list on a regular basis? This is another task that reputable software should be able to do for you.
Oh wow I didn't even know people were still replying to me. I had this topic set to notify me of a reply but I think probably since it was moved that went away. Anyway, I'm still working on ways to keep myself out of the way of spam threats. I send my newsletter through a very reputable website called Aweber. They have an online customer service chat & I was able to chat with someone there who had me do a couple of things to try to keep me in the good. She had me add my unsubscribe link at the top of my mailings, I'm not thrilled with it being there becuase that isn't the very first thing I want my readers to see so in addition to that I wrote a small note myself thanking the reader for subscribing to the email and explaining they can unsubscribe yada yada yada. The person I talked to at Aweber also had me redo my confirmation email, after a reader subscribes to my newsletter they are sent a confirmation email where they have to click a confirmation link, as soon as they click that link they then receive another email basically saying thank you for signing up and this is what you can expect to your email and how often, all of that useful info. Basically just reminding them that they did sign up and I'll be emailing them soon with a newsletter. So I put those 2 changes into action today.
To answer Stevens questions,
1. I send my newsletter Daily Monday through Friday, most Saturdays, and sometimes Sundays. On my website right about the sign up box I do let people know it is a daily newsletter and remind them again in the confirmation and thank you email.
2. As far as my bounces, Aweber is amazing and handles all of that stuff for me. That is part of what I pay them for. If a messages fails to deliver 3 times in a 60 day period that subscriber is automatically unsubscribed from the newsletter.
3. Ew question 3 is a toughy... Once a subscriber is unsubscribed whether they unsub their self or their unsubbed for bounces or whatever. I don't do anything with them, just delete them off of my list and forget about them. It is very easy for a subscriber to unsubscribe from my newsletter though, their is a link at the very bottom of the newsletter explaining that they can use the link to either unsub or change their email address, it's their personal link. And as I said that link as of today is also located at the top of the newsletter. So it's now in the newsletter twice.
I forgot to mention earlier that in addition to the extra unsub link at the top of the newsletter, and reminding the subscriber in the confirmation email what to expect, I have also included a link under my sign up box on my website to show the subscriber a sample copy of the newsletter so they will know what to expect in their email. I'm still trying really hard to take all of the precautions that I can but as I mention in my very first post, I know nothing about how spam works but I do know I've covered alot of ground since my first post. And yet, when I went to post my newsletter today with all of these new precautions, I couldn't help but feeling a little hesitant like maybe I've missed something in the spam area and I'm so afraid that all it takes is 1 junk button happy clicker to get me labeled as a spammer ugh.... So any ideas of what if anything that I'm missing or could do different???
Also thanks Miss Bessy for your insight, your examples were great and probably a great possibility in my case. My newsletter is basically a family friendly newsletter and looking through my subscribers emails earlier today I did notice there were more than ALOT of suchandsuchfamily[at]... whatever or soandso[at]whereever emails, do you know what I mean? So your example reminded me of that and all of those people are sharing that email then yes, I can see where 1 family member may request the newsletter and other family member may say whats this junk and click junk not knowing what it is... And if that is the case, then does Spamcop or whoever the big spam boss person who closes are sites etc, do they take those types of things into consideration or do they just see the spam complaint and shut us down? See, these are the kinds of things that frighten me. I've been doing my newsletter for over 4 years {I think I said that already} but this is the first time in all of that time that spam has really been any kind of an issue....
I have really good protection on my computer {or at least the guy I pay to take care of the computer tells me I do lol} plus I dont send the newsletters from my computer like out of outlook or anything like some folks do, I send the newsletter directly from Aweber, so I think if I did have a virus that would still be impossible unless this virus can log into Aweber, create the email, and publish it, then click the send button. I do understand what your talking about with the whole virus issue though. And again, I admit I'm clueless, so maybe that possibility is what I'm overlooking... I dont know...
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...What kind of proof do they expect? Consider being asked to prove that you are not a thief: how would you do that? There's an oft-quoted maxim, "you can't prove a negative." If they think they have evidence that you are a spammer, you might be able to refute it but only if they present it to you (or at least provide you with enough information to allow you to refute it)
I'm not real sure about what the site host expected out of me when they asked me to prove this but I was completely honest with them, I explained how I obtain and maintain my mailing list from start to finish and I suppose I did a good job because they said as far as their concerned the case is closed. Which is great news but, it's just scary to think people are so quick to cry spam that it could happen again and who knows if they'll be as cool with it the 2nd time around... Which is why I'm here and ready to learn how to save my site and my sanity lol.
Thanks everyone I'm sorry this is so long winded...