thanks for the tip on the mail host config. Hotmail seems to work after the first spam i submitted (lets hope they keep working).
It did ask me to do all of my email addresses, but the netzero one wouldn't work at all. I resubmitted it via email. Hopefully someone else can figure it out. Also I have a ton of gmail accounts, is one gmail mail host config file adequate or do I really need to do each and every one of them?